Transracial Family Coaching
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Coaching Philosophy

As a coach I hold fast to the belief that when people know better and different, they can do better and different. As such, my goal is to partner with prospective and adoptive parents in identifying, understanding, and addressing the inherent challenges and obstacles that come with creating and growing healthy and happy transracial families.

To do this effectively, it is important that both coach and parent participate honestly and authentically. In order to facilitate this, I ask involved parties to commit to the principle of saying what needs to be said in the most receivable way possible, while still getting their points across. I also ask involved parties to receive that which is being said as if it were coming from a place void of malice, a place where transracially adopted children are supported and encouraged to see themselves for what they truly are, distinctively beautiful.

For those interested in one-on-one coaching. We are pleased to offer the following options:

Option #1 Pre-coaching questionnaire and review plus 55 minute Video Chat/Phone Call.

Option #2 Above, plus a post-session report, as well as supplemental materials and exercises.

Group Classes and Ala Carte Coaching

Distance Learning Courses

Introduction to Identity
Perhaps the greatest challenge facing parents who adopt transracially is that of shepherding their child through the complex minefield of racial identity formation, development, and maturation -- a task all the more difficult for parents unfamiliar with identity development in general and its impact on both them and their children.

Introduction to Transracial Identity
A major, ongoing task for parents who adopt transracially is supporting their child as they undertake the task of same-race identity development. This task may be all the more difficult in a country where white people rarely give much thought or weight to identity development; for, in America, white skin is seen as the default racial identity, and thereby the “norm” by which others races are judged.

Raising Black Boys to Become Black Men
When it comes to the police, many white people have the “If you’re not doing anything wrong, you’ve got nothing to worry about,” attitude. While true for most white people, this couldn’t be further from the truth for black people when it comes to police interactions. Thus, consider the problems with applying this axiom to young black men raised within the privileged and protective walls of white parentage.

Introduction to Prospective Adoptive Parenting
Parenting is hard work; parenting a child of another race, culture, or ethnicity is even harder. This course seeks to equip prospective adoptive parents with information, tools, and suggestions. Course work will also include pre-adoption self, family, and environmental assessments. The course aims to prepare prospective parents to better understand and appreciate all that comes with not only adopting but also raising a transracial child. As a result, prospective adoptive parents can make a more informed decision as to whether transracial adoption is right for them and, more importantly, whether they, their family, and their environment the right fit for a child of a different race.

Introduction to Newly Adoptive Parenting
Our newly adoptive parents course explores and addresses many of the unique obstacles and opportunities associated with parenting a child of another race, culture, or ethnicity. This course includes matters often overlooked by adoption agency led workshops, as well as matters which only arise once the transracial family is intact. This course will also provide participants with age appropriate insight, suggestions, and tools for developing healthy same-race identities in young children, as well as transition-specific tools and suggestions for those adopting older children. 

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